Renda
Toshner
A
Turkish-American Architect
Renda was born in America in a Turkish home. He was not a new Muslim,
but he didn’t have any idea of Islam until his youth.His
life story has many lessons for us.
Let me first describe the Turkish community living
around Detroit in Michigan. Turks started
migrating to America in the 1970’s. Now their third
generation is thriving in America. They hold very high
professional jobs and successful businesses. Most of them live in
the rich suburban areas of Detroit. They are financially
well established and socially well connected with government
officials. I was
introduced to them recently, as I participated in a few of
their funeral services at the Tawheed Mosque in Farmington
Hills, Michigan.
I had closer interaction with them when I was invited
to visit their homes and their Turkish social club. I found out that as
Muslims they had melted into American society. This trend is not
unique with the Turkish community. Many Muslim immigrants
have come to America from different lands and have melted into
American society, thereby losing their Islamic identity. On the other hand, we
observe that many Muslim immigrants are better practicing
Muslims in America than in their homelands. Their children even
outshine their parents in the practice of Islam due to the
religious freedom in America.
Renda’s parents were prominent members of this American
Turkish community.
They were both physicians and did very well
financially.
Thus, Renda was born in an affluent family. Nevertheless, they
brought up their son without any kind of Islamic
education.
Renda
completed his high school and joined a university. He had no idea about
Islam until he started mixing with overseas Muslim students at
his campus.
America and American universities offer a great deal of
freedom of choice and do not interfere with such personal
choices. Since
Renda had a very gentle nature, the Islamic teachings and
practices attracted him.
He was surprised to discover that he was born in a
Muslim family, but family circumstances kept him far away from
the knowledge and practice of Islam. Renda learned more and
more about Islam every day and tried to put it into
practice.
Renda was very smart in his studies. He proceeded to
architectural engineering and finished the coursework very
easily. He joined
an American architectural firm when he was preparing for his
professional license examination. It usually takes a few years
to pass the license examination after a few attempts. Renda was so clever
that he passed the licensing examination in only one
try.
Renda’s growth in Islamic knowledge and practice was
similarly very outstanding. He benefited a great
deal from the Islamic activities at the Anarbor Mosque and the
Muslim community there.
His parents had retired and chose to go back to
Turkey. They
settled down in their native country for the rest of their
lives. Renda
chose to stay in America since he liked the Anarbor Muslim
Community. He
wanted to increasingly take part in Islamic activities. I used to give the
Friday Sermon(Juma’ Khutba) once a month in the Anarbor
Mosque at Michigan State University. He was usually the
Muazzan(the person who calls for the prayers) of this
large mosque. I
recall that in one Juma’ Khutba I described the story
of Prophet Yousuf(peace be upon him; pbuh). In this story I
mentioned that the brothers of Yousuf(pbuh) tried to use his
shirt to prove that he had been eaten by wild animals. Later, when the wife
of Aziz tried to have an affair with him, his shirt served as
proof that the wife of Aziz was guilty. Much later the shirt
of Yousuf(pbuh) was used to regain and repair the eyesight of
his grieved father.
I added that if Yousuf’s shirt could perform such
miracles, how unique that person would be who wore it. Renda liked these
remarks and called me on phone as soon as I reached home. He asked me, “Are
these your ideas?”
I told him, “Not at all. Anything I say is from
Tafseer(explanations and interpretations of the Qur’an
written by Islamic scholars). I am not a scholar and
I do not have the right to give explanations of the Qur’an
from myself.”
Renda wished to look like a Muslim physically as
well. He wore
Islamic Turkish dress all the time, even on the job. I asked him, “Does
your employer object to your dress since you have to represent
the firm in many places?” Renda said, “They have
to accept me the way I am if they want me.” I repeated, “Don’t you
experience some prejudice at your job because of Islamic
dress?” Renda
bluntly said, “That is their problem.” I like this
turban. I asked
him to show me how to tie it up so
gracefully.
Renda made outstanding contributions to various Islamic
communities. He
used to present Islam to the inmates of American prisons. This requires a great
deal of time and patience. Renda’s experiences
with prisons were very positive. Renda felt that these
new Muslims in prison needed a special form of brief but
comprehensive literature. He developed such
pamphlets on his own and at his own expense. He wanted me to review
these pamphlets.
I found these very pertinent for the use of new
Muslims. May
Allah reward him for these efforts.
Renda’s contribution to the Farmington Hill’s Mosque is
also unique.
About a two and a half-acre land was purchased for a
mosque in Farmington Hills. Renda came up with
many options for constructing the mosque and the parking lot
at that site. The
present architectural layout of the mosque was exclusively
done by Renda.
Bids were taken from various firms for the
architectural drawing.
Renda’s company gave a high bid. Renda’s advice was to
pick the lower bid of another firm. Renda, however, did
the detailed drawing of the mosque to help this firm. We both had very
lengthy and tiresome meetings with the architectural
firm. Renda never
complained about it.
Without Renda’s professional help, this mosque would
never have been built.
Renda’s personal life was very unique too. He went to Turkey to
get married. He
did not ask his parents to find him a girl from a rich
family. Instead,
Renda told me that he picked a girl from an average family on
his own. He knew
that his wife did not know anything about Islam, but he was
confident and determined to teach her Islam. Renda felt that
Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) and all other prophets were ordered by
Allah to start preaching and teaching among their near and
dear ones first.
Renda not only taught her Islam, but served as an
outstanding model for her. With the help of Allah
she acquired Islamic knowledge very fast. Both cherished this
Islamic way of life.
Allah blessed them with two
daughters.
Renda did not want to stop here. He wanted more and
more participation in Islamic activities while his beloved
wife cooperated with him fully. That was the time when
the war in Bosnia was in full swing. Muslims were being
killed and tortured every day. Muslim youth from many
countries went there to help the Bosnian Muslims. Renda could not resist
and made up his mind to go there as well. He left his wife and
young children in Anarbor City and appointed a wali or
guardian for them from among the Turkish Muslim students. He called me to say
salam(peace) and to make me aware of his family
arrangements.
Renda was a very cool minded, confident person and was
very firm in carrying out his decision. He especially wanted
to help the orphan children of Bosnia. After a while we heard
that Allah made him a shaheed(martyr) in
Bosnia.
The
Anarbor Muslim Community was very proud of Renda and his
family. They
immediately established a trust and collected a substantial
amount of funds.
This money is to be used for the education of Renda’s
children when they reach college level.
Renda’s wife is very noble. She is growing more
and more Islamically by understanding and memorizing more and
more of the Quran and Ahadith[the sayings, deeds and
approvals accurately narrated from Prophet
Mohammad(pbuh)].
Renda’s children are very intelligent like him. His wife is raising
them with a remarkable Islamic
background.
We are told that Renda’s mother and father in Turkey
are also proud to be parents of a shaheed. Similarly,
the Muslims of the Tawheed Mosque in Farmington Hills,
Michigan are thankful to Allah for the design of their mosque
by this shaheed. May Allah grant him a lofty place in
Paradise.